The choice is yours!!

Either you can have infinite Friends or a girl friend. The choice is yours! It is my personal feeling. And it can be attributed to my bachelor status. (I do not considered 'committed' people as bachelors.) I have seen several cases in my short life ( I am 23), they have bolstered this personal feeling of mine. A person who is very normal, who has no issues in his life. He lives his life as carefree as you and me. He can go out anytime to accompany you. He can even accompany you to the loo because you do not like to go alone anywhere. In short, I mean to say he is very much a part of yours. (From the last line if you are trying to draw any conclusion about my orientation, let me clarify; I am very much straight.) Okay, I will not deviate from the issue. The same person will start behaving differently once he gets a girl into his life. Reason....Let me explore!

Girls have some common habits. I can not list all of them but I would try to emphasize those which can be threats to your personal relationship. When a girl comes to your life; the girl and you both have some expectations from each other.

You have compromised few things for this relationship like you could not sleep well because you were supposed to call her every night and you can not disconnect the phone until and unless she asks you to do the same. If she asks you to disconnect the phone for the first time and you disconnect it, believe me you would be screwed. You do not love her. You would be accused of getting bored. "You were not paying attention to me..."..."You were expecting someones call..."..."who calls you that late.."..."blah...blah???" and you can not escape these questions. Its like a question paper. "All questions are compulsory." You have to have answer them otherwise again the same lecture "It would lead to misunderstanding...and would hamper the firmness of our relationship....we can not expect the same sync...if you do not share these things with me..!"

you do not have any option. You do not have any option?? Ya! you do not have!! You love her and its not a normal affection you love her truly. "saccha pyar!!!!"

This saccha pyar thing is a great excuse. How? I have seen in my life whenever a person is in love with a okay type of girl he will never use the phrase "saccha pyar" maybe he would be using it in front of his girl friend but nowhere else. While if a guy is in love with a girl who is just a non-male, he would be reiterating this "saccha pyar" phrase ad-nauseam. Why? Let me explain. As you know that your girl friend is not a stunning beauty, she is not an academic geek you need to defend your love for her. Your surrounding (I mean friends) would never allow you to bite the bitter gourd. They would always nag you directly or indirectly about her. They would try to divert you to elsewhere. As you are not a foolish even though you are in love, you can understand their insinuations. At that time you would devise a phrase to defend your love. 'Saccha pyar!!' You can not say the world that she is a girl and it is a sufficent reason for me to love someone. It does not sound good. Everyone wants to point out something special. If there is nothing special about your girl Friend then let your love be special for her! And this is how the 'sachha pyaar!!' thing came into existence. For the sake of the phrase ..sorry ..the 'sachha pyaar!!' you answer her all questions as you are appearing for a campus interview. I know that you do not like answering to your father when he asks about your grade points or monthly expenses. You always tell him that it is not easy to manage a grade point of 7.5 or to bring your pocket expenses below 100 rupees per day, but when your girl friend asks, you answer the questions religiously. As you do not want to have some misunderstanding. As you have been told that your honest replies can catapult your relationship to heera-ranjha status.

So how does the phone chatting hampers your personal relationship? It has direct and indirect impact on your relationships. Okay take indirect first.

You talk whole night. Consequently, you sleep whole day if not whole upto midday. You bunk classes, you miss your lunch. And there is no need to mention how important are the dinning table discussions. You discuss everything at the dinning table. Your family, your grudge against opposite sex, you hard feelings with your teachers and everything. As you miss your lunch you miss the dinning table discussion, which heralds all information. So you are not updated about your surrounding. You have also denied the other ways of being informed. Whenever someone comes to your room, he finds the door latched from inside. During night hours, you latch the door to assure an uninterrupted discussion with your girl friend while during day hours you do not want to be disturbed. Your girl friend has wished you 'good night ...sweet dreams..sleep well!!' and you are busy in implementing her wishes (her every wish should come true...apart from this; you also need rest. You are in love so, you are not allowed to be hungry or thirsty but you can feel drowsy). In short, you hardly find sometime for your friends. When you get sometime and sit with your friends, you do not find them as rational as your girl friend. Your friends would be pulling your legs and you are not the sole hero for them but now you have developed a habit to talk about yourself all the time (as you talk about yourself every night), you can not allow someone to denigrate your stature. Another thing is that if your girl friend is a 'sachha pyaar!!' material (non-male), you always feel a threat that someone would start talking about her and you have to defend her again. So to refrain yourself from all these things you start maintaining distance from everyone.

People are also reluctant as you try to force yourself all the time, your sense of humor has been spoiled. (Believe me the first thing which is spoiled in a girl's companion is your sense-of-humor).

Okay what about direct impact??Hmmmmmm..Girls have a habit to rate your friends.